I’m not good at being social. That doesn’t mean that I don’t like people, it’s more about being an introvert.
Sometimes, I’m a bit envious of extroverts, my husband is one of them: he’s able to easily engage with people, talking about himself and many other topics without any “self-awareness alert”, when one thinks “Why I am saying that? Am I not awkward ? Is that really interesting ?”. People say opposites attract, in our case, it’s true: you can spend a lifetime working with me and never hear once the sound of my voice.
and I were talking about her recent substack gathering in Berlin, I told her how scared I am by the simple idea of attending one in Paris. She asked “Is that because you’re an introvert?” and I replied, "Yes, I’m not good at being social ".As I said, it’s not that I don’t like people, it’s more about finding it hard to talk about myself, especially my feelings or the things I’m doing. You may say that’s what I’m doing on substack, on this blog and even in an interview but of course, it’s not that simple!
If you want to build a community or sell things, maybe just be read, no matter if it's on instagram, Substack or in a gallery, everyone will tell you one thing: you need to talk about yourself!
But how can you play the social game when talking about yourself feels like walking naked in a crowd?
I’ve been deeply moved by some posts by
and , they shared many interesting ideas around being an artist away from instagram/tik Tok etc... or sharing our vulnerabilities and work online, but that's a topic I find interesting to talk about with you!How are you dealing with the " social part" of life, especially online? Let's talk together, I’d love to hear in the comments your experience <3
Some seeds for your brain
That’s all for me now,
Thank you for reading,
Lyly
Hello from a fellow introvert 👋 for me, I’ve been really enjoying being social online recently - I like the time it gives me to gather my thoughts and say what I really mean, time that I just don’t get in a conversation in person. Of course, there’s pros and cons to that too! But in general, I’ve been taking sharing on social media a little slower, and that’s feeling better 😊
I don't think you necessarily have to speak about yourself on social media, but you do have to let yourself come out on the page. You have to let your way of seeing things shine through in whatever you are talking about.